WORKOUT: Aerobic 50/Mobility
Presence in absence.
…to know light, know dark; strong, weak; active, passive; hot, cold; love, hate; etc.
…back to Gratitude.
And so it stands to know Gratitude (and it’s power) we must know Ingratitude.
Conjure an ungrateful person you know.
(I know you’d rather not b/c it’s such a vile mental image, but play along.)
“…they tend to believe the benefits are self-bestowed. The benefits are also experienced as an entitlement or even a right.”
“…Ingratitude can be seen in a person’s inability or unwillingness to be generous with words and feelings.”
“…frequently experience bitter disappointment and complain incessantly for what they see as the lack of generosity and support bestowed upon them by others. Not only do they return kindness with passive ingratitude, they return it with accusatory discontent. In their view, the world owes them a living. They can be quick to spread the pain of their neurosis around to others.”
“… They resist feeling gratitude because feeling it acknowledges their dependence on a circle of life beyond their self-centeredness.”
“…To acknowledge the other and to express gratitude can feel to them like a further weakening of their fragile sense of self.” (Michaelson, 2014)
OK, that’s enough…pretty rough, eh?
“I have learned silence from the talkative,
tolerance from the intolerant,
and kindness from the unkind;
yet, strange, I am ungrateful to those teachers.” –
It is only through interactions with the ungrateful that we fully embrace the power of our own gratitude.
Gratitude, along with many other constructs in Positive Psychology, is accruing quite a bit of research support as a key variable in our psychological well-being.
And as frustrating as ungrateful people are…just be grateful that they are there to help you see the depth of your gratefulness.
See below or check out R. Emmons other vids here (and maybe pass along to that person you pictured above…who knows, they just might thank you for it).